Improve your Love Life

I keep getting things by email about hypnosis and self-hypnosis. The latest is about using self-hypnosis for improving your love life!

** Relationship Tip of the Day by Debra Berndt, CHt **--------------------------------
The easiest way to change the film of your subconscious programming is through self-hypnosis. Just a simple, light relaxation opens the door to the editing room of your mind, and you can rewrite the film script of your life. Most single people make the mistake of continuing to focus on being alone and miserable instead of imagining themselves in a happy relationship. By visualizing yourself in a happy relationship and flooding your mind with beliefs that you are confident and lovable through self-hypnosis, your film strip is rewritten, and a new love story unfolds in your life's movie. The important thing to realize is that it will not appear until you truly believe it as you are visualizing and feeling how it would feel to be completely loved. Visualization only works when you engage the feeling of the wish fulfilled. Read the rest of the article, "Changing the Movie of Your Love Life," at http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Changing_the_Movie_of_Your_Love_Life.html

Run!

Help! It's chasing me! I don't want it to catch me. What will I do if it does? It's right behind me, nipping at my heels.

How did this happen?? I don't want to continue running! But I can't put the brakes on now!

It's relentless. It's always behind me and now it's very close.

It seems every time I open my mouth, I commit myself to something more. Now I'm the Director, Now I'm an Instructor. now I'm the Leader of a success team. And what do I know about SUCCESS? It's right behind me and I'm running as fast as I can. I'm running scared. If it catches me, my life changes...

And then what happens when we get what we wanted?!

Lunar Eclipse

Did you see the Lunar Eclipse last night?! It was exquisite. The clouds only enhanced the experience, as the diminishing moon was surrounded and sometimes enveloped by them. The light on the clouds sometimes created a brightly colored ring around the moon, accentuating the diminishing glow. We observed the changing scene for about an hour, until 10:00 pm, when it seemed almost completely covered by shadow, and orange in hue. Then the clouds gathered together and concealed the part of the sky we had been observing. I’m so glad I had the chance to share this rare occurrence with my son.

The Opposite of Self-hypnosis

Is hetero-hypnosis the opposite of self-hypnosis? I think the term “hypnotism” covers it. We don’t need the hetero- prefix. The only word I can think of with hetero is heterosexual. So hetero-hypnosis is hypnotism of a client by a practitioner of the opposite sex. I guess that’s why we need insurance.

Since all hypnosis is self-hypnosis, then we don't need to have a term for it. Or do we? I am thinking it would be nice to have a term that means a hypnotist acts as a facilitator during the client or group's experience of the receptive state known as hypnosis.
I usually just call it "hypnotism."

Are most clients female? Are most hypnotists male? Things have changed a lot at the National Guild of Hypnotists. 11 years ago most of the presenters were male and all of the stage hypnotists were male. Now things have begun to even out a bit.

Hypnotic Fountain of Youth

It’s all how you look at it! One of the last 2 surviving WWI veterans died yesterday. It said in the newspaper, he was in good health and took no medications except eye drops. He leaves behind a wife, who is 100 years old, and a caregiver. Harry Landis was 108, and died after a short illness.

I’m listening to Andrew Weil on CD, Healthy Aging, Your Guide to Optimum Physical and Spiritual Well-being, although he feels most anti-aging efforts are hooey. He reports most centenarians are female, with poor eyesight and hearing, and of course, feisty personalities. He makes it sound unpleasant to live that long, but it is all in your perspective. I can hear Deepak Chopra describing the same woman, but in a much more positive way, as he did in Ageless Body, Timeless Mind. In it he describes habits that most long-lived people share. In Weil’s book he says that the factors most highly correlated to long life are: physical activity and community involvement (social connectedness). I assert that the mind is the biggest factor, so it makes sense to keep it healthy by physical activity and social interaction. It’s also helpful to look at aging in a positive way and viewing the benefits, not just the disadvantages. There are many things that are considered more valuable as they get older, like antique furniture, cheese, wine and whiskey. We live in a throw-away society now, but in the past, old things were considered better, because they were broken in already and had lasted long enough to prove their superiority over other instruments. Yes violins are considered more valuable when aged properly. And I have seen carpenters who prefer an old trusted tool to one of the new-fangled electric ones. Shoes are more comfortable when broken in, too. I’m sure I could think of more examples. Any ideas?

I’m sure luck has a lot to do with longevity. If you avoid dying while a reckless youth, you are fortunate. But after a certain age it is your habits that will carry you through or do you in.

Hypnosis helps you develop and maintain salubrious habits. See philologsblog for the definition of salubrious. See "Hypnotic Eloquence" below for Deepak Chopra's tips for healthy continuation. (I need a more positve term for "aging.")

Hypnosis also helps you to discard negative, limiting beliefs. That will be discussed in future articles.

I will go into all this much more deeply at my next presentation…
I will let you know when that occurs. I will probably present this before the convention. I think the Hypnotic Fountain of Youth will be a topic of interest around here.

Positive Perspective

Happy Fabulous February!

This is an article from the January/February newsletter, called Verbal Impact.

You may consider this edition late for January, or on-time for February. I prefer the latter. It all depends on how you look at it! Is the glass half-full or half-empty? For the answer to this and many other questions, see the article below. I have decided to make only one edition for January and February. I thought January would be a relief after the frenzy of the holidays, but the frenzy continues…


Life is wonderful. Life is hard. Both are true. How can that be? Good things happen. Bad things happen. That’s life. We all know good and bad are subjectively defined. Take this example:

There was one farmer in the town who had a horse, so he was considered rich by the rest of the people in the town, who were very poor. They told him it was very fortunate that he had a horse. He said, maybe it is, maybe it isn’t.
Then the horse ran away. They told him that it was terrible the horse ran away. He said, maybe it is, maybe it isn’t.
The horse came back with two other wild horses. They told him that it was very fortunate. He said, maybe it is, maybe it isn’t.
His son broke his leg trying to ride one of the wild horses. They told him that it was very unfortunate. He said, maybe it is, maybe it isn’t.
The army came by to conscript all young males, but his son couldn’t go because he had a broken leg. They told him that it was very fortunate. He said, maybe it is, maybe it isn’t.
Since he was the only young man in the town who didn’t go with the army, he got to marry the prettiest girl in the town. Everyone said it was fortunate.
Etc. I’m sure you get the idea. It’s all how you look at things.

So, you can be an optimist or a pessimist. It depends on how your perspective. They say every cloud has a silver lining. And isn’t it nice when you find a bit of sunshine in an otherwise gray day? It’s nice, and seems even sweeter, because it’s unexpected. I had a minor car accident 2 months ago. I don’t like to dwell on minor aches and pains, but when I informed my healthcare professional, he ordered some X-rays. He told me he saw a problem on the X-ray that could now be corrected. I was fortunate to have complained because it might have gone undetected otherwise, and could have caused problems later.

Some people are just not happy unless they are miserable. They like to complain. They like to get sympathy. The problem is that attitudes are contagious. I try to avoid these people. Some days it’s difficult to do so. But it can be done.

I saw a show called Ned’s Declassified recently. It is a show for children, which is about 3 students in Middle School. This was the funniest episode I've ever seen, and it’s about positive and negative attitudes. A student named Ned meets the most negative person on the planet, who also happens to be the new kid in his class. Since Ned values a positive attitude he tries to cheer up the new kid, but he ends up with existential angst, himself. His friends ask him how things went. He says “We do live in a barren Universe of Nothingness!” Eventually, Ned introduces the most negative boy in the world, to the most negative girl in the school and he finds out that putting 2 super negative people together, changed their charge to positive, like multiplication (2 negative numbers make a positive when multiplied). These two were so happy to have found one another, they changed each other. And their effect on others was transformed from negative to positive. When previously flowers drooped whenever they came into the room, now they all revived, just like the other student’s attitudes.

This show demonstrates how your attitude affects your life. It’s very funny. Fabio even shows up for a cameo appearance!

Wishing you enlightenment, encouragement and empowerment!